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How to get unstuck, inspired &
ready for the next step?

You are capable of so much more than you give yourself credit for.
You can be in charge of your own life, if only you let yourself.
Our blog is filled with simple things you can start doing right now, to get you on your way.

Let's upgrade those (business) relationships

Let's upgrade those (business) relationships

3 tips on how to improve your relationships

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Clean feelings vs. dirty emotions

If emotions are "just" emotions, why are we so afraid of them?

The advice trap

Sometimes your (well-meaning) advice is just not what the other needs.

Tired of feeling powerless?

Here's how to calm down your brain's stress responses.

How to say you're sorry (for real)

If you did something wrong it's time to *own it*!

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How to say you're sorry (for real)

What you probably should have said

3 tips to help you get rid of those annoying brain-freeze moments.

This is the best communication tool

3 reasons why you should add 'asking questions' to your communication toolbox asap.

The usual suspects

Have you noticed that it's always the same people pushing your buttons?

Thinking of working with your spouse/partner/friend?

Here's a secret to making it work for you both.

Habits are like vitamins

Real change seldom happens with a big bang.

Living in a *perfect* world

What's your I-just-won-the-lotery dream scenario?

When things (eventually) go wrong

How to set yourself up for succes, even when things go sideways.

Why one-size-fits-all shouldn't be a thing

Let's stop treating others the way we treat ourselves.

Having a bad day vs. being a bad person

There is definitely a difference between the two!

Is poor communication a crime?

Spoiler alert: It's definitely a relationship killer!

Do you also loooove *being right*?

Let me help you convince people.

Stop saying *that's difficult*

Time to get rid of self-sabotaging habits.

Why you should embrace difficult conversations

Many of the best things in life are on the other side of a difficult conversation.

Are you the "dominant type"?

In life — and on the dance floor — do you tend to lead or surrender?

Slow thinker? You're not alone.

Fun fact: Half of the people on this planet need more time to think things through.

Excuses.com

Why our excuses can really keep us from connecting.

Does it take two to tango?

Or can you start practicing on your own too?

The problem with good intentions

Sometimes, good intentions have more side effects than wanted results.

Let's talk about perfectionism

Perfectionism can be a great tool.. and a total pain in the ass.

Are you too modest?

Why it's important to own what you're good at. For your own sake — and that of others.

The power of a *real* yes

Why owning your choices makes all the difference.

The advice I hate most? *just be yourself*

If it were that simple, we would all *just* do it, no?
Cathy Gemis - Impact Habits - What's your blind spot

What's your blind spot?

A blind spot is a habit that you have, but don't know you have. It's a subconscious, repetitive behavior that -usually- you've learned at a very young age.
Cathy Gemis - Impact Habits - Everything is relative

Everything is relative

And yet, we're so quick to judge, label and blame.
Cathy Gemis - Impact Habits - how to use your brain

Are you using your brain in the best way?

Did you know that our brain has different gears? And are you using them in the right way?
Cathy Gemis - Impact Habits - the sympathy trap

The sympathy trap

Have you ever tried to help someone, just to see them get more frustrated? Then maybe you stepped into the sympathy trap.
Cathy Gemis - Impact Habits - the magic question for perfectionists

The magic question for perfectionists

If you're a (recovering) perfectionist, like me, you know what it feels like to be overwhelmed.
Cathy Gemis | Impact Habits | Progress not perfection

Focus on progress instead of perfection

Have you ever NOT done something because you believed you weren’t good enough at it?
Cathy Gemis - Impact Habits - connect with anyone

How to genuinely connect with anyone

How to genuinely connect with anyone (even those obnoxious coworkers you'd prefer to ignore) without selling your soul.
Cathy Gemis - Impact Habits - why changing habits is heard - introvert perfectionist entrepreneur

Why changing habits is hard

Habits make our life so much easier. But they're a b*tch to change. Don't despair! You've got this.
Cathy Gemis - Impact Habits - How to deal with imperfection

How to deal with imperfection

The ways we've developed to deal with imperfection, are not working. Here are some alternatives that do work.
Cathy Gemis - Impact Habits - 3 reasons - introvert perfectionist entrepreneur

3 reasons why people will reject your idea

You've been working hard. Doing the research, preparing the presentation. You're ready. Foolproof. Nothing can go wrong. Or can it?

This is what success in business is really about

Success in business is not about how smart you are.
Cathy Gemis - Impact Habits - you don't need all the answers

You don't need to have all the answers

Funny how much value we give to *knowledge* - especially in this day and age, where information is broadly available. Remember when you had to have an encyclopedia (do they still exist) or go to the library to find information?
Cathy Gemis | Impact Habits | 4 unexpected lessons

5 unexpected lessons from 8 weeks preparing a talk

Sometimes you take up a challenge - and it turns out you had no idea what you were getting yourself into.
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Why you can't be *anything you want*

What if you could become your own tailor made version of happy & successful? Instead of forcing yourself to be something you're not?
Cathy Gemis - Impact Habits - the good relationship myth

The *good relationship* myth

We've all been raised with impossible standards when it comes to relationships. A * good* relationship should be easy, fun, and take no effort. There has to be a click, we should *feel it*.

The *mini* growth mindset

I discovered that I have a very specific version of the growth mindset just for myself :-). I call it a *mini growth mindset*.
Impact Habits - Cathy Gemis - undermine our confidence

One sneaky way in which you may be undermining your confidence

Confidence is so important in our professional lives. We need it to do all the challenging things we have to do every day - and our team and our clients need our confidence as well. And sometimes, we inadvertently undermine our own confidence.
Cathy Gemis - Impact Habits - The kindness paradox

The kindness paradox

When we want to be kind, we're putting a lot of energy in NOT addressing the issue. But not in a way that will solve anything. We're just adding to our own frustration, and possibly to the gossip.
Cathy Gemis - Impact Habits - 7 habits to boost your confidence

7 habits to boost your confidence

Confidence is not a personality trait. Confidence is not a skill. It's the result of living in alignment with yourself. Here are the 7 things I've been working on consistently, that have made all the difference.
Impact Habits - Cathy Gemis - How to set your mindset for success

How to set your mind for success

Just because our brain can work on automatic pilot, doesn't mean it has to. There is a manual mode available.
Impact Habits | Cathy Gemis | The best tablet in the world

Sometimes the next best solution - is the best solution

I'm a recovering perfectionist. I'm learning that sometimes the next best thing - is actually the best thing.
Impact Habits | Cathy Gemis | What is keeping you from having THAT conversation

What is keeping you from having "that" conversation?

You know - the one you’ve been having in your head over & over again. In 100 different versions. Each worse than the other.
Impact Habits | Cathy Gemis | Increase your impact

What to focus on to increase your impact (and what not)

What to do to get people on board? To get your ideas to be accepted? To make a real impact?
Impact Habits | Cathy Gemis | Rule number 6

Rule number 6

Not taking yourself too seriously is actually - and counterintuitively - one of the best ways to increase your own impact.
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How a growth mindset can help you get unstuck

Who do you think you are? What do you believe about yourself? What do you know to be true? Most of us have a static self-image. "This is who I am." Full stop.
Cathy Gemis | Impact Habits | But they should

How to stop your "but they should" mantra

Pushing harder on the should-buttons, only increases resistance. And frustration. On both sides. Discover 2 ridiculously simple habits to help you out of frustration town.
Cathy Gemis | Impact Habits | The art of possibility

The art of possibility

You cannot control what happens to you (so please stop trying!) But you can control how you handle what happens to you.
Cathy Gemis | Impact Habits | How to own your life

How to be in charge (without being a control freak)

We tend to live our lives in one of two ways: we either leave things entirely up to chance or we go for full control. Neither of these will make you happy. But there is an alternative.
Cathy Gemis | Impact Habits | 2 myths

The two myths that make us unhappy

There are two myths that are spreading fast. And counterintuitively - they make us unhappy.
Cathy Gemis | Impact Habits | Take more control of your life

How to take more control of your life

If you want to have a positive impact in your own life, your own career, being in-powered™ is the key.
Cathy Gemis | Impact Habits | The illusion of the comfort zone

The illusion of the comfort zone

What you think of as comfortable and safe, might just be what's putting you in danger.
Cathy Gemis | Impact Habits | Not my monkey

Not my monkey

Do you take too much on your shoulders? Not enough? Or both?
Cathy Gemis | Impact Habits | How not to listen

How not to listen

Stop the fake listening now!
Cathy Gemis | Impact Habits | Don't add negativity

Don't add negativity

Complaining doesn't help. What can you do instead?
Cathy Gemis | Impact Habits | The worst advice you can give

The worst advice you can give

When someone is upset, we tend to make them even more upset by the way we try to help. Do this instead!
Cathy Gemis | Impact Habits | Choice overload

Suffering from choice overload?

If you're anything like me, there are days when you want to give your poor overworked brain a decision-holiday. But how do you do that?

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